I have been using synthetics throughout. I have been using 75w90 in the front and 75w140 in the rear since I tow. If you are not towing, a 75w90 in the back would be ok. Might even give you a little better mpg.
Amsoil has a 75w110 that they came out with this year that kinda splits the difference. That would be a great all around oil if any towing you did was on the light side.
www.lubelocker.com makes a real good gasket for the 8.25 rear end. Totally eliminates the need for RTV or any gasket sealer. It goes on dry and it works great. I even reused it on my last diff oil change. Messing with RTV is, how they say.... so 20th century. Get a gasket. Your jeep and you will appreciate it.
I assume you have skid plate on front and that is why you can't locate front diff. You drop the skid plate and the diff will be looking at you. Drain and fill plugs on it, so the job is easy.