Thanks guys, that's what I suspected. I don't think they were intentionally trying to cheat my dad. My guess would be they read "change fuel filter/water separator element" and thought that meant replace the head unit. They don't seem to like to waste time on logic or careful reading when it comes to the CRDs. My dad and I both took our CRDs in there for their first oil changes two years ago, and they put 12 quarts of oil in both cars. Carelessness. I don't think they're greedy or mean or out to get us, I just think they don't know much about CRDs and don't care, and don't want to waste their time on them. I also don't think they particularly care for me or my dad, and I'm not entirely sure why. I have always tried to be polite and friendly to them, but they seem offended by me. I think it might be because I ask too many questions out of natural curiousity, and they read that as a threat. They got really curt with me a year ago when I brought my car in and told them about a hissing sound when the turbo spooled up that sounded like a hose leaking. They test drove it and called me to tell me there was nothing wrong with my car ... it was just the sound of the turbo spooling up. It was the only time I ever felt that "duh, you stupid woman" vibe from any automotive place. I was polite but insistant that it was not the normal sound, and I could tell they were offended that I was basically telling them they were wrong, which they were ... a week later I had their diesel specialist look at it and, lo and behold, there was a leak in the turbo inlet hose. I think between that and the 12-quart incident, they're just embarassed or resentful, so they roll their eyes when I come in, or my dad. It's frustrating because we're both intelligent car owners and we both try hard to treat the dealer employees with respect. But enough ranting ...
I haven't personally bought parts from the dealer, but my dad has and hasn't had any problem at the parts counter. Apparantly the parts guys didn't get the anti-CRD memo.

Maybe it's just coincidence, but the staff members at every parts counter I've ever been to at a Mercedes dealership or at a Jeep dealership have always been really friendly and as helpful as possible to me. Service is another story.