tommudd wrote:
Only you can answer the last question. But do you care enough about him and enjoy being with him that you can see your whole future together, OR do you just see him as a great friend and want the best for him but never see a real future down the road. Simply put do you see the two of you together in ten/twenty years?
How much do you have in common, shared things you like to do? Do you have fun when you go out together? Lots of times people think that it will get better but in the end you end up hating each other due to the fact that your tastes or the things you want to really do are so much different that there is no common ground to build a real relationship. If your money and what you spend it on now is a problem , then will it always be?
Not having a license is a huge part of maybe why he doesn't want to go out but still he has to see what you are doing in going there everynight/day.
Best thing to do is sit down and really look where the relationship is going, how you really feel about him, and where you want to be in a few years. Tough choices for sure, but your happiness is what is important. Life is too short to think things may change for the better. Its not easy letting go of someone but sometimes it also lifts a huge weight off of your shoulders and lets you be you and also be happy in life.
I still love my first wife, but our tastes and what we liked grew apart to the point of us fighting all of the time. Now looking back the divorce was the best for both of us. We still really care about the other one and keep in touch but it worked out great for both of us.
How much do you have in common, shared things you like to do? Do you have fun when you go out together? Lots of times people think that it will get better but in the end you end up hating each other due to the fact that your tastes or the things you want to really do are so much different that there is no common ground to build a real relationship. If your money and what you spend it on now is a problem , then will it always be?
Not having a license is a huge part of maybe why he doesn't want to go out but still he has to see what you are doing in going there everynight/day.
Best thing to do is sit down and really look where the relationship is going, how you really feel about him, and where you want to be in a few years. Tough choices for sure, but your happiness is what is important. Life is too short to think things may change for the better. Its not easy letting go of someone but sometimes it also lifts a huge weight off of your shoulders and lets you be you and also be happy in life.
I still love my first wife, but our tastes and what we liked grew apart to the point of us fighting all of the time. Now looking back the divorce was the best for both of us. We still really care about the other one and keep in touch but it worked out great for both of us.
As always Tom, good advice. I look at how things were last time we dated (and broke up) and realized - nothing has changed. We still argue about the same things. I look at where we both are in life, and it's like he's stuck & spinning his wheels, but I'm moving forward & chasing my future - be it career, life, what not. I do have fun with him (when we actually do something), mostly though, I'm too drained by the time I get to his place to even care about seeing him. I'm beginning to resent him
Which is something I don't want to feel about someone I care about. I definitely need to think more about this - and whether I can stand losing a good friend - he's one of those people who will cease all contact with me if I break up with him
