no frowns dude

there's nothing wrong with BDS coils
I would request a shipping quote from 4wdp or 4wd.com and bds direct cause sometimes that 25 dollar cheaper ends up 50 dollars more expensive
I think tom's #1 concern with 4wd.com isn't what they carry, it's what they ship sometimes
ome, jba(skyjacker rebrand), and bds or (4wd hardware rebrand) all come up to about 750 after shocks so it's pretty much the same nickle, it basically boils down to what coil / length combo you want
bds rear coils are like 10lbs rate heavier than jba25 (skyjacker) except jba25's are roughly 3/4" longer overall and the OMEMD's are between the bds and jba25's overall length wise and another 15lbs lighter or so than the jba25's
something like that, that's 98.4% correct, we piled all of that info coil rate wise here somewhere and i had a set of each laying in the floor not long ago
for most people, rear coils aren't going to matter, you'll get 2-3" when it's all said and done, unless you're hanging 400lbs easy off the rear, then no one makes coils worthy of the application

for the front OME HD and BDS should be about the same, i remember seeing this "strut relocation" thing you mentioned, but I don't remember what it was for
personally, there's nothing wrong with the stock location, if bds won't work on our stock rancho or bilstein shock"struts" then i wouldn't use them and would go with OME for the front, move the strut in you're on the uni, move it out your on the a-arm