My fiance

lil black liberty · **Posted:** Tue Feb 17, 2009 1:12 am

my girl is 19 her bff is 23

tommudd · **Posted:** Tue Feb 17, 2009 1:22 am

girls at that age are just plain trouble , well guys are as well, way too much game playing with other people.
And why do you have to be married by 22? Get out and live a little and start making a life before you think you have to be married. Not sure why people set an age and think that they have to do something by that age.
Trust me I was married at 21 and was way too young, take your time and no pressure that way let it happen when it happens.

Diggerfreek · **Posted:** Tue Feb 17, 2009 1:22 am

send her bff up my way.. I'll take real good care of her :lol:

lil black liberty · **Posted:** Tue Feb 17, 2009 1:26 am

tommudd wrote:

girls at that age are just plain trouble , well guys are as well, way too much game playing with other people.
And why do you have to be married by 22? Get out and live a little and start making a life before you think you have to be married. Not sure why people set an age and think that they have to do something by that age.
Trust me I was married at 21 and was way too young, take your time and no pressure that way let it happen when it happens.

My dad is dying and I want him to at least see one of my kids before he is gone... Also Digger.. if she was available I would.. that way she'd get off my back.. it's like having a monkey around I swear!

Diggerfreek · **Posted:** Tue Feb 17, 2009 1:30 am

well, just take and shove that monkey back up her Bruce Almighty :shock:

sorry, I just couldn't help my self :twisted:

jsc7002 · **Posted:** Tue Feb 17, 2009 10:14 am

lil black liberty wrote:

Well ok.. let me tell the whole story... I told her that I wanted to be married before I turn 22 next Nov... not this Nov but next... and she felt like I was giving her a deadline if we didn't get married that I'd kick her to the curb... well so she got pissed at me and began to ignore me.. Then her friend preceded to steal her phone and call me and tell me that she was wondering if I was doing ok because she was told that Laira (my girl) and I had broken up and that the wedding was off.. At this point I was pissed and said no bullpoop it ain't she ain't told me that.. well she (Britney) the other girl my girls BFF told me that she said she did and that she was cheating on me with a guy named Charles... so... at this point I became enraged and hacked into her email... I know I'm a bad guy... but I wanted to see if she had sent this clown an email and yeah she did. but she said in the email that she was home, he responded via txt that he was glad she was home and what was up... she never responded because she fell asleep and he said baby are you awake.. So.. now I'm in a pickle A: cuz I hacked my girls email... B: I don't know if she is cheating on me and C: I really love this girl and she ain't lied to me yet, but why would her BFF do that to me?

I understand what your going through man Im the same age as you and have similar plans and mine arent going quite the way I want and it sucks but I atleast know why they arent going the way I want.

jeepmedic46 · **Posted:** Tue Feb 17, 2009 11:45 am

That stinks. A lot of good advice here. Hope everything works out and you get to the bottom of all this.

lil black liberty · **Posted:** Tue Feb 17, 2009 12:01 pm

Diggerfreek wrote:

well, just take and shove that monkey back up her Bruce Almighty :shock:

sorry, I just couldn't help my self :twisted:

Oh... I'm laughing so hard right now I think I'll scratch my ear like a dog haha.. I'm officially putting that quote in my top 10 of funniest things I have ever heard!

Tokyojoe · **Posted:** Tue Feb 17, 2009 2:46 pm

1. You can't hurry love.
2. You don't hurry having a baby.
- if you believe in Heaven, your father will know about the baby if he passes prior to you having one.
3. Never, ever mention the email hack. Toss it out of your head
4. There could be a motive for a woman's BFF telling her BF that her BFF is cheating on him. She might want a piece of her BFF's BF.
5. Did you get all that in #4?
6. Are you sure?
7. Re-read it again.
8. Now, this next thing could be good or bad.
a. Did you mention to your GF that her BFF told you that she was cheating on you? If not, a tough decision to tell her that her BFF told you this info. it could backfire....especially if the BFF is hot and you could have something there instead of the gf.
b. Forget all of them and go party with the buds/bros/dudes.

amerpwr · **Posted:** Tue Feb 17, 2009 3:36 pm

Tokyojoe wrote:

4. There could be a motive for a woman's BFF telling her BF that her BFF is cheating on him. She might want a piece of her BFF's BF.
8b. Forget all of them and go party with the buds/bros/dudes.

mikes07kj · **Posted:** Tue Feb 17, 2009 10:18 pm

tommudd wrote:

From an old man whose bought way too many houses :lol:

there are prettier ones, smarter ones, richer ones and lot better overall ones just waiting out there. You may have many "loves" over the years and you will gain some knowledge from each of them, use it like a college education, you learn as much, and it costs just as much or more.

You're just a young one yet enjoy life to the fullest :wink:

Tommudd, I think you and me have a few things in common. All I got to say is I'm glad those days of losing my 1st love are way behind me. Trust me lil black liberty this is just a part of life, doesn't happen to everyone but it will make you stronger. Go out and enjoy yourself, your way to young, besides variety is a spice of life. :wink:

CD · **Posted:** Tue Feb 17, 2009 10:27 pm

Well that sux mate, at least you found out prior to getting married :wink:

Now you can mod your Jeep and don't have to explain it to anyone

JeepinJarhead03 · **Posted:** Tue Feb 17, 2009 10:36 pm

makes ya appreciate the one's that stick around and put up with ya &#*^ :wink:

ramlebliberty · **Posted:** Wed Feb 18, 2009 12:24 am

do yourself a favor.... RUN! DROP EVERYTHING AND RUN! that is too much darn drama, if its like that before you get married i can't imagine the coo coo crazy poop thats going to happen after. Run away, be single for a while, get your feet back under you, your young, don't rush into marraige. If you do, you'll end up on the side of the road with dirty fatigues and a cardboard sign, and she'll get the kj...

don't play around, just sever ties instantly, don't try to reconcile. If you deal with this crap, you asking for a lifetime of torture.

CrossBones · **Posted:** Wed Feb 18, 2009 9:40 am

Yeah, I agree with better you find out now than after you're married. Even if your out a ring, it's cheaper now.

But before you run, I say do the BFF. then kick her and the ex-fiance to the curb. You can run with a big smile on your face.

dog_party · **Posted:** Wed Feb 18, 2009 9:58 am

If your father is anything like mine, he would rather see you carry on his genetic lineage (have children) with the right woman at the right time...even if that means he has to see it from Heaven.

And even if you do get married at such a relatively young age, don't have children right away. Things are going to be tough enough just trying to build the married relationship with your wife. Establish the foundation of your marriage first or your entire marriage will, most likely, be based solely on your children, which isn't good for you, your wife, your children, or your marriage.

Blue KJ in PA · **Posted:** Wed Feb 18, 2009 11:23 am

dog_party wrote:

If your father is anything like mine, he would rather see you carry on his genetic lineage (have children) with the right woman at the right time...even if that means he has to see it from Heaven.

And even if you do get married at such a relatively young age, don't have children right away. Things are going to be tough enough just trying to build the married relationship with your wife. Establish the foundation of your marriage first or your entire marriage will, most likely, be based solely on your children, which isn't good for you, your wife, your children, or your marriage.

x2...better to marry the right one than get hitched to the wrong one and have to deal with messy divorce at the same time or close to the time of your father last days.

jsc7002 · **Posted:** Wed Feb 18, 2009 12:27 pm

dog_party wrote:

If your father is anything like mine, he would rather see you carry on his genetic lineage (have children) with the right woman at the right time...even if that means he has to see it from Heaven.

And even if you do get married at such a relatively young age, don't have children right away. Things are going to be tough enough just trying to build the married relationship with your wife. Establish the foundation of your marriage first or your entire marriage will, most likely, be based solely on your children, which isn't good for you, your wife, your children, or your marriage.

X3 very, very good advice there, plus it makes it worse if you have kids and then get a divorce because then you are putting them through a really tough time and I promise you its not good for them....or anyone for that matter especially the kids though, I cant say that enough, when I get married I will do anything to make sure not to get a divorce, because I know what its like to go through one.

lil black liberty · **Posted:** Wed Feb 18, 2009 2:49 pm

Well I believe in this thing when you get married in front of god it's til death do we part. So, I wouldn't get divorced and I can raise a kid by myself it ain't nothing big hell I practically helped raise my nephew with my parents because of my stupid booty sister.. We do everything together, we are just like brothers.

jsc7002 · **Posted:** Wed Feb 18, 2009 4:13 pm

lil black liberty wrote:

Well I believe in this thing when you get married in front of God it's til death do we part. So, I wouldn't get divorced and I can raise a kid by myself it ain't nothing big hell I practically helped raise my nephew with my parents because of my stupid @$#% sister.. We do everything together, we are just like brothers.

fixed, sorry thats one of my pet peeves, you gotta capitalize it. Yeah thats good marriage is meant to be for life but when raising a child you cant just be friends, it'd be great if you could but you have to set the example and you have to discipline them and be a father figure not a friend.

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