Connect the relay trigger wire to the high beam wire... you're still going to want a switch though since there are on road times when you need high beams but can't use off-road lights leagally.
I just grabbed my test light and identified the wire that had power when the high beams are on at the headlight harness. I have PIAA off road lights on my bumper and it only took a bit to find the wire.
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