I agree, the dive is only noticable going very slow, parking or at a stop sign.
I see Medium springs do the exact same thing, and THAT really answers my main concern and most of the reason I posted this question. Thanks guys!
No, I didn't put in the optional thin spacer. At the moment I have a VERY slight rake forward when empty, but after I load the kids and rack and gear it levels out perfectly and I like that. So I'm happy with not going there. I could always clevis-lift out the difference if I felt like it some day.
I agree it probably isn't the shocks, so I will finish the lift with the rear OME's, just to be consistant. (Rocky-Road should be able to build a new addition with all the money I've been sending them lately

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I figure after all's said that I'm going to live with the situation as it is, being too expensive to change to Heavies now, and probably not serious enough a safety issue. I'm 90% happy anyway.
Thanks to everyone for their opinions. This site continues to be a great place to gather a lot of valuable viewpoints fast.