I got the driver side lower nut loose! Huge victory after the struggle lol. So whats needed is 1/2" drive breaker bar and ratchet, universal joint, 20ish inches of extension and a standard depth socket. you have to route the extension up the OUTBOARD side of the forward drive shaft as described in the guide i linked. But the guide also said you needed to put the front end on jack stands. I managed to loosen it without lifting the front end. It was SUPER tight quarters and obviously if your a larger guy and can't fit under the vehicle it won't work.
As for the trans mount, I took a look at what I could of it and it sorta looks..... worn out-ish. Ill probably replace it when I drop my trans pan for a fluid change. I'll probably do OEM parts, I have weird OCD about using OEM unless I'm trying to upgrade.
I may drive her down south a few hours to a buddy who has a full vehicle lift and trans oil catcher to do that.
On a side note. the litens alternator decoupler tool kit does not fit the pulley on my alternator

oddly enough it fits the replacement pulley.... which probably means the wrong one is on now lol.