I am like your brother in law. Believe it or not, some people do prefer 2WD, because it is lighter on the steering wheel, less noisier (in my case) and sloppy.

I drive in 4x4 Full Time almost all the time now, I like to know that I won't slip and throw my booty when I make that sharp turn fast before that car makes it here and I get stuck there..
One last reason they leave 2WD there on Selec Trac, the backlash, or drive train slack, or the lag, or the gap, whatever you would like to call it. I call it the BANG! On 4x4 FT you have the outrageous t-case bang on slow speed, stop and go traffic.. So that' sanother reason they like to keep the 2WD there.. Quadra Trac and Selec Trac are two different things, and don't even get me started on the Loredos so called "4x4".. it is just Honda AWD...... that's not even selectable, with no 4LO!
Dje Ryu wrote:
My mileage definitely drops when I go to 4HI
Not in my case, since I cannot get any worse than this is.. So if your mileage already sucks, it won't be any worse (15mpg in my case) I have seen NO difference. Matter of fact someone even had the discussion that 4x4 FT can even help the mileage because less drag by front wheels.
4HI might cause lower mileage, because it locks all four wheels and causes strain and the need for extra power to turn wheels on turns, etc.
4X4 FT works so much better since there is nothing locking (sort of).