I know how it can be with being obsessed with something. But that will never excuse them for their misleading advertising and attempts to make you foot the bill for their lazyness and poor designs.
I just spent the better part of 8 hours installing a used ARB for a 05-07 bumper. One i bought used rom a fomer KJer out of Anarbor MI. I drove 400+ miles round trip to pick it up half way and then had it re-powder coated to color match my black 07. ( I know you hate black, but it does look cool). Too dark for pics now but I will get some asap and post.
Pics here now:
Used ARB
Condition of hardware
After Powder Coating
Install so far, too dark after this for more pics. More to come
I am waiting on some replacement parts from ABR. namely replacement parking lights, One was melted as it was insatlled incorectly by the previous owner. And a new ARB badge for the front as it had to be removed for the powdercoating.
I am also waiting on a fog light mount for the OEM lights to be mounted from the griille to the bull bar. The bull bar cover the old holes completely and the one mount apparently never made it through the De-Install in Mich.
ARB is not only sending me this mounting bracket but it is warenteeing it for me. Unfortunately it is on the slow boat from down under, but... the customer service is still there.
Point is that if I had all the necessary hardware and all the parts from the previous owner. I would be in great shape now.
I am very sorry you have to go through all tha. but again they screwed you big time and they should make it right.